This One Skill Will Make You A Successful And Popular Leader

 

[Begin Everyday Habit] Now, Discover the Steps to Be Popular & March Ahead Fast by Learning How To Praise Someone and Give Frequent Complements Starting Today

Everybody likes a compliment

We thirst for praise and approval and dread condemnation

 

Everybody loves to hear good things about themselves. It makes them feel elevated, it makes them feel important and gives them a sense of purpose in whatever they are doing.

 

Every day we all get multiple opportunities to praise people around us – people we know and even strangers whom we may never meet again.

 

But don’t know why praising or appreciating others is still one of the most ignored qualities of ours in our daily life.

 

Just randomly praise someone and see how it pleases and changes the person. And most importantly observe how it makes you feel.

 

It is said that do unto others as you would have them do unto you. If you want to be praised be the first to praise others.

 

In one of the most popular and highly read books even today – How to Win Friends and Influence People – by Dale Carnegie, the author writes that - … we should never forget that all our associates are human beings and hungry for appreciation. It is the legal tender that all souls enjoy.

 

If you want others to praise you, begin praising others.

 

But praising doesn’t mean you start talking good things about others. If the praise is not done in a certain specific way, then the praise loses its value. It doesn’t create the necessary impact on the person being praised.

 

There should be a purpose behind every praise. If you praise someone for something in the right way, they will be inspired to do more of that act. You will help that person transform his life.

 

In this blog, we are going to learn how to structure our praise so that we can create a sense of inspiration in the person and fill ourselves with positive energy.

 

But first, let me ask you a question – If you had to praise someone, how will you do it?

 

Some of the most common sentences we use to praise others are –

 

You are a good boy.

You are very hardworking.

You are smart.

You did a good job.

 

The person being praised will feel happy but it may not impact his behaviour with these kinds of praise. It’s time to rephrase our praise.

 

Let us look at a few steps that we can incorporate as we praise a person the next time.

 How To Praise Others

 

1. Be a Good Observer of What People Do

 

If you don’t observe people you will never know what to praise a person for. If you want to become good at praising others, then you should do one thing – see people doing something right.

 

The behaviour of a person need not be big. It can be as simple behaviour as eating a bar of chocolate and throwing the wrapper in the dustbin or always being punctual.

 

Train your mind to observe people’s behaviour wherever you are. The added advantage to you is that in the process of observing the good behaviour in people you will develop great observation skills.

That was the first step.

Before you decide to praise someone, remember…

 

2. Your Praise Must Be Genuine

 

Yes. Even praises are fake that most people make use of to get their job done. We all, maybe once, must have tried this technique. But now people have become smart enough to see through the praises and understand whether it's real or fake.

 

As we learn to praise, there is one word we should be careful about. That word is – flattery.

 

There is an interesting definition of flattery – ‘Flattery is telling the other person precisely what he thinks about himself.’

 

While flattery is insincere, praise is sincere. While flattery is universally condemned, praise is universally admired.

 

If flattery really worked, everybody would be an expert in human relations and interpersonal skills.

 

Let’s be thankful that this is not the case.

 

Don’t become a person who flatters others, instead become a person who genuinely sees the best in others and is not hesitant to praise it.

 

So, make sure your praise is genuine. Give nothing less than an honest and sincere appreciation because honest appreciation fetches results.

 

The next thing to remember is, if you want to praise a person, don’t praise the man, instead do this…

 

3. Don’t Praise the person. Instead, praise the act done by him or her.

 

If you praise someone by saying, ‘You are doing a good job.’ The person may not understand which work of his you are referring to. He may be doing a lot of tasks; how will he know for which task you are praising him.

 

When you praise the specific task done by someone, you appear genuine and sincere in your praise. The person will realize that he is being observed. He will sit up and listen to you and try to better or repeat his performance. By praising his one single act you will have planted a seed of positivity in him. You will have made his day.

 

Let’s take a few examples of how to praise a behaviour.

 

Example 1:

 

‘Vivek, the detailed presentation that you gave in the sales meeting really impressed everyone.’

 

Example 2:

 

‘Rohan, the way you handled the concern of the client and closed the deal is no less than a case study for people in the sales team.’

 

Example 3:

 

‘Sunita, your speech on the topic was really inspiring. It gave me clarity on a lot of doubts and questions that I had in my mind.’

 

Figure out the other person’s hard work, his good behaviour and then praise it honestly and sincerely.

  

4. Maintain Good Eye Contact with the person you are praising

 

Imagine someone praising you. He is talking really good things about you. But instead of looking at you, he is looking elsewhere. How will you feel about it?

 

Eye contact plays a very important role in communication. Praising someone is also a form of communication. In fact, praising is one of the most powerful communication you can have with others.

 

When one doesn’t maintain proper eye contact during communication and keeps looking elsewhere, it shows that the person is not sure or confident about what he is talking about. The admiration may appear fake.

 

On the other hand, if you look into the eye of a person and compliment him, a connection happens. You can see how the face of the person lights up with your praise.

 

If you follow the above discussed 4 steps, I am sure you will become better at admiring people around you.

 

Putting Things in Practice

 

Developing any skill requires deliberate practice. If you want to really develop your Praising Skills, you can consider following this ONE ACTIONABLE:

 

Make it a lively game for yourself - Praise at least three people every day. Observe how they felt and then refine your praise.

 

Keep a record and check every week how you are progressing. Ask yourself how you could have praised better and try the better way the next time you praise someone.

 

Conclusion

 

Appreciating or praising someone is a social skill that can not only help you in your professional career but also in your personal life. In professional life, you can go on to become a great leader in your organization and in your personal life you can develop a deep friendship with many people.

 

In short, you can become a great influencer.

 

But we are not born with it. This is in one way a piece of good news. Now, anyone can develop this important skill.

 

Today, when everyone craves a good appreciation, we need to train ourselves and develop this skill. We should strive to make it a part of our lifestyle.

 

Imagine how your team members, your spouse, and your children will feel when they listen to your sincere appreciation.

 

You will agree that it pays to master the skill of admiring others.

 

Once we master it, the skill will serve us our whole life and help us scale new heights.

 

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